Tami is a rock star mother that has great advice and great hair. That is my goal, to be a mother with great hair and great advice. In one of the latest episodes she said something that I needed to hear as ridiculous as that sounds. "There's no weakness in forgiveness." FNL is a glorified teenage drama so Tami was referring to Jason forgiving his girlfriend for sleeping with his best friends after he recently became crippled in a football accident....classy. So I may not have the same problem as Jason but forgiveness is forgiveness right? Regardless of what people have said or done holding a grudge and letting this gap in relationships get continually bigger won't make me any happier. To add onto Tami Taylor's advice my stake president spoke at church on Sunday on Elder Bednars talk on being offended. One quote in particular stuck out to me.
"When we believe or say we have been offended, we usually mean we feel insulted, mistreated, snubbed, or disrespected. And certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean-spirited things do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us to take offense. However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to offend you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that another person offended us is fundamentally false. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else."
Basically I am a weak person who has made a choice to be unhappy because of, in my case, pride. So now I'm making a new choice in which there is no weakness, forgiveness.